The Best Style Secret!

I was walking down Grafton Street in Dublin a few days ago  and as I walked through the crowds seeing all the usual faces , not knowing anyone in particular but the type always familiar , fashionistas, students, tourists, work crowd, teenagers etc I noticed a woman coming towards me (as much as I could see being short sighted and not having my prescription sunglasses on......). 

I quickly delved into my bag to retrieve my shades and plonk them abruptly on my face to see her more clearly........

Pink laser cut dress savida at dunnes stores  cost €25 in summer sale

All eyes were upon her and from her head to her toes she was different and like a breath of fresh air. The colours and patterns of her outfit made her stand out all on their own but it was her face that made you remember her. She was not beautiful in the classic sense of the word and indeed on closer inspection as she came nearer her clothing was a mish mash of several styles from several decades. 

I was confused for a while as I regarded her. She caught me looking at her and passed on  giving me a faint smile and a quizzical look. As I sauntered down the street further I couldn't help wonder what it was about her that made her stand out from the crowd....

pink sparkly ankle shoes €10 savida at dunnes stores

Then it hit me like a freight train , the woman oozed confidence. She was brimming with it from the smile that curved her lips to  the  seductive sway of her hips. Her clothing blended with her confident personality and all eyes were upon her. There was nothing extraordinary about her in that her face was averagely pretty and she was of average height and build but she was also fearsome and kinda intimidating and wonderful all rolled  into one.

I realised there and then ( indeed what I had always known in theory but never witnessed it so effectively in reality) the sheer power of Confidence......... 

pink fringe earrings €5  bought in stalis crete

An elusive magnetic tool, a force to be reckoned with, an art form , a powerhouse, an all conquering body of self belief and fearless emotion. This is what Confidence means to me and I am on an endless journey to acquire it. However , that demonic force , that blood sucking vampire, that gnawing disease called Fear always gets in the way....... 

wasp embellished belt €4 in primark

Esinstein once said..." Anyone that has never made a mistake has never tried anything new" and though he may not have been a fashionista of his time he could have well written  his famous quote for all of us Confidence hunters out there finding our way through fearful waters on the endless quest for personal belief .

having a pop of pink day....

I have started questioning my own Confidence and wonder about how it ebbs and flows.......I seem full of positivity one minute and the next I don't want to go out the door. I guess life is changing all the time and with it our Confidence levels. The trick I think is to try nurture it when its there and remind ourselves why it was there when it seems to have disappeared......

feeling confident in pink!

Fear is the all crippling factor that hampers Confidence and for this reason its essential to combat it,  parcel it up,  kick its arse and send it flying..........   Its easier said than done though but if you stop and think about it whats Fear anyhow......  Googling it there now and its telling me that Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.

Facing this fear is the best thing for me when it comes to keeping my self-confidence. What is it exactly that I am afraid  of anyhow?  I can think of several reasons and the main culprit are other people. What will other people think of me if I wear such a dress or outfit , will they laugh behind my back, will they say nasty things about me......????  Well supposing they do all of the above.....I will survive.......I still have the crazy outfit only I love......the world is still turning and  friends are still waiting for me to turn up for those evening drinks and my family ( though I probably drive them crazy) still love me warts and all!..... My everyday life hasn't changed because of someones negativity. In other words SO WHAT!!!

round framed shades €3 in primark

Let people say what they want.... They will anyway and you can't be living in the hope that it will be all positive and light towards you.  So I say,  work on making your own postitivity and light........Fuck the begrudgers!....  Hold your head up walking down the catwalk they call the High Street and if you love what you wear and how you look .....Show it......Be It.........Work It..... Do all these things earnestly and with utmost belief. Remember how you felt when you looked in the mirror and saw yourself looking your best in your cutest dress.. Remember that feeling , trust your own instincts and be confident in your own choices.

True Confidence is a gift and something we all have to some extent or other. The begrudgers will soon back away from you when they realise their unconstructive negativity has no results for them.  The more fearless we become in our choices the more Confidence we acquire. Lets not give up on ourselves and be firm in our style that we love to wear. Lets not be swayed by the begrudgers who don't agree/want us to look a certain way...........

People are complicated and say things for a myriad of reasons. Jealously, fear of losing you (if indeed its a "friend" who is being negative), fear of having to change too, or fear of you shining too brightly beside or amongst them....

Confidence is a fire starter,,,,,,,,,Confidence is always in style..........

I would love to hear your thoughts on Confidence.... Do you have it? ......If so, do you have any tips on acquiring it that maybe I haven't covered?...... 

        Talk soon   XXX VIOLINKIT.